What the bible says about courtship, reference: http://www.learnthebible.org/courtship.html


For conversational purposes, the following is in reference to both courtship and dating; something I thought would be good information with us understating as long we operate under the guildines of God's authority how we get together is how we get together......

Courtship is not mentioned by name in the Bible. However, to hear many people speak of it, not only is it specifically defined in scripture, it is also commanded as the only proper way to come into marriage. As I see it, some are guilty of giving biblical authority to the opinions of men. This is not much help. My dictionary defines courtship as the act, process, or period of courting, or wooing. One of the definitions of courting is to seek as a mate. This does not help much either.

Most advocates of a strict courting ritual will pull scriptures as support for their formula. Some of their principles are very biblical but some are not. The problem I have is in giving scriptural level authority to manmade procedures. Much of the courtship formulae I have seen are akin to fads. People are overcome with the power to arrange the lives of others and go too far.

The Bible does not command any particular ritual of courtship. In the case of Isaac and Rebekah, their marriage was arranged for them before they even saw each other. In the case of Jacob and Rachel, Jacob chose to marry because of love--though he still had to work things out with Rachel's father. Biblical marriages almost always had a dowry. The betrothal involved the making of a covenant. There is much more--too much to go into here. The point is, marriages in the Bible followed a particular pattern because of the customs of the times. But nowhere in scripture does God make any commandment that His people follow these customs. In Bible times, even the lost people followed these customs. They were not some form of divine plan.

the history of dating reference: Read more : http://www.ehow.com/about_4570730_history-dating-courtship.html

History of Dating & Courtship

By Natasha Jackson-Arnautu

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Natasha Jackson-Arnautu

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From the moment the first settlers set up shop in North America, dating and courtship played a major role in the set up of society. First courtship was seen as a means to provide a large family to do all the work required. Then, courtship and dating became more formal and required the consent of the parents. As time has progressed, we have taken much of current dating culture from the past and made it fit with the social norms of the day

History

  • During colonial times, dating and courtship were thought of as necessities rather than a luxury. Many new families and settlers were busy with the work of building towns and establishing an infrastructure, so dating and courtship became a means to facilitate large families to decrease the workload. During the 1800s, men and women took on different roles that were defined by gender. Young girls were taught domestic duties and young men worked in the fields, which often left the young people without any interaction with the opposite sex. In the early 1900s, love and romantic feelings became more important in choosing a partner. The history of dating and courtship has evolved with the changing roles of men and women in society, as well as the traditions of the times. As the gender roles became more pronounced throughout much of the 1800s, more formality was brought to dating and courtship. During this period, rings were first introduced as a formal way of asking for a woman's hand in marriage, as well as asking parents for permission. Similarly, courtship began to evolve publicly which led to what we know call dating.

Significance

  • Typically courtship took place in the highly-decorated home of the woman, in the company of her family. However lower and middle class families couldn't afford the fancy decor and opted instead for more public courtings, which look much like what today is called "dating." Many of the customs of dating and courtship are still present in modern day relationships from the wedding ring as a sign of commitment, to the white bridal gown and veil as signs of purity. Although many brides adorn themselves in beautiful white gowns and spectacular veils, the color of the gown is no longer indicative of purity in the sense of chastity.

Misconceptions

  • Looking back on the history of dating and courtship, much of what we consider common knowledge wasn't so common back then. In fact, the man was considered the more attached, more emotional in the relationship, which directly contradicts what we believe about relationships today. Furthermore there is a common misconception that there was no sexual relationship among couple prior to marriage. Although many couples did refrain from premarital sex, during the 1770s premarital pregnancies in the United States reached a high of 30 percent. After this spike in premarital pregnancy, it was deemed impure and the white wedding gown and veil was then viewed as the standard of purity for young brides.

Function

  • Throughout history, with the exception of modern times, dating and courtship was seen as a bridge to marriage and children. Dating and courting wasn't an arbitrary activity in which young people engaged for fun. As far back as colonial times, there was an explicit purpose to two young people taking time to get to know one another. Today however, a date isn't necessarily an indication of a desire to marry, but more as a social activity or rite of passage. Because women relied heavily on their families or spouses to provide financially for them, dating and courtship was seen as a way to ensure a woman's future.

Effects

Although throughout most of history there was a very utilitarian attitude towards how one chooses a mate, as time went on, romantic feelings and love played a more dominant role in choosing a partner. What was once seen as simply courtship, now includes dating on a far greater scale. The ultimate goal of dating is still marriage, however young people are free to date casually many people before finding the one person whom they will marry

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